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To the Unexpected!

This weekend while completing my ritual pre-jog bowl of oatmeal with a healthy dose of New York Times on the side, I came across an editorial that caused me to stop and think…

A Thanksgiving Toast by Anonymous

Sitting down with friends and family today, there will be thanks for the steady currents, flowing out of the past, that have brought us to this table… But it’s worth raising a glass (or suspending a forkful for those of you who’ve gotten ahead of the toast) to be thankful for the unexpected, for all the ways that life interrupts and renews itself without warning…

It will never cease to surprise how the condition of being human means we cannot foretell with any accuracy what next Thanksgiving will bring. We can hope and imagine, and we can fear. But when next Thanksgiving rolls around, we’ll have to take account again, as we do today, of how the unexpected has shaped our lives…

Isn’t that the truth! To think I now live in a city that as a little girl I had no idea existed!

Back to Thanksgiving… Thursday evening, while dining on turkey amongst friends from Syria, Palestine, Egypt, South Africa and Virginia, I told the table that I was thankful for my health, fantastic husband, family and friends. But, having read the aforementioned editorial, I would like to add an addendum…

A Toast To 2009—Whose Unexpectedness has brought so many delights, challenges and wonders!

1) I am thankful that I can read.

Recently, upon arrival to Oman via Air Arabia, I was asked to fill out a standard entry/exit form before passing through customs. While filling in the details I felt a tug at my purse, which immediately cause me to turn and grab hold of my bag. Staring at me was not a pickpocket, nor a little kid, but a 39-year-old laborer from Hyderabad that spoke not a lick of English or Arabic. Wondering what he wanted, I said “Yes?” upon which he thrust his passport and entry/exit form into my hand with a look of “I don’t know what they want from me, but please help me get through customs”. His look was that of desperation and I was reminded of my arrival 6 years before to Japan where I too knew not a lick of the local language. Happy to help, I opened his passport, filled out his form, smiled and pointed him to the right counter.

Not being able to read is like missing one of the vital senses. To Mrs. Cooper and Mrs. Kinney—my kindergarten and first grade teachers—Thank you for teaching me how to read. The skill has come in handy!

2) I am thankful that I am free to dream, do and be.

To come from a place that says that if you dream and work hard, regardless of social circumstance, you can do and become just about anything is very empowering. Or in my case (as a petite female), anything except for a Giants quarterback!

Minor details aside, I remember that before coming to Dubai my friends and family asked questions like—Are you going to have to wear an abaya? Will they let you drive? How are women treated in the work force? What about your freedom? Well, to make a long answer short my responses are no, yes, very well and fine thank you. What I have learned is that freedom comes in many forms… While in NYC I may have the freedom to vote, it is difficult to walk down the street free from whistles, catcalls, requests for money, the sight of daily crimes… Here most expats will tell you they love Dubai because they feel so free—free from violence, from the worry of making ends meet (Although recent news may start to change this. Inshallah, I hope not.), free from whistles, catcalls, cold weather, etc. Freedom to and freedom from… both are vital freedoms!

More on freedom to… I recently attended TEDxDubai and was surrounded by a room full of Dubai’s most motivated people. The energy was palpable and the dream-o-meter on high. Surrounded by women covered in black—whispers of excitement, plans to do great deeds and general happiness permeated the air.

Despite what the papers say about the current economic situation… people still come to Dubai for the freedom to dream, do and be and for the freedom from certain things “at home” as well. In the land of palm shaped islands, indoor ski slopes and tall towers, the built environment is a testament to the imagination and will power of its people. This is an amazing place indeed!

3) I am thankful for the unexpected.

What would life be like without the unexpected goat that walks in front of your car, the endless visits to the “male side” of the local courts to get stamps for a business license, the surprising lack of canned pumpkin for certain North American holidays, the tiny fish that brush my ankles in the turquoise blue waters of the Gulf, the friends made via visits to a hidden warehouse in Al Quoz, the newfound ability to run in 100 degree heat (something I never would have been able to do in New York), the vicarious excitement experienced via random quotes and announcements of weddings and now children on Facebook (seems like the world has decided to breed in this year we call 2009), the joy experienced while driving through the desert to Zig Zigler as he explains what life was like growing up as an aspiring businessman in America’s Deep South, the beautiful sounds of Syrian hip hop at a recent concert…

To health, happiness and unexpectedness in 2010 and beyond!

A

P.S. Happy Post Thanksgiving and Eid Mubarak!

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Frames

The mood around Dubai seems rather damp these days… Perhaps it is due to the large amounts of rainfall we’ve experienced over the last week, leaving this city’s sun-lovers feeling a bit grey. After all, wasn’t it last Thursday that Dubai Eye Radio announced that this year we’ve had record rainfall—22mm in one day?! Or, maybe the city is quiet due to the holidays? This year UAE National Day, Eid al-Adha, Christmas and the Islamic New Year conveniently fall right in a row—a fortune that many expats have interpreted as an open invite to go home for the entire month of December. Speaking of which, New Yorkers and Virginians—I’ll be in town at the end of the month!

Regardless, I find myself struggling to make sense of the events that are going on around me in this city often characterized by lavish parties, awe-inspiring buildings and the reputation for being a place where one can earn a quick buck. Seth Godin points out in his book All Marketers Are Liars that anyone interested in marketing must understand the power of frames. He writes:

Frames aren’t just a tactic. Frames go to the heart of what marketing is today. If you’re unable to tack your idea onto a person’s worldview, then that idea will be ignored… A picture of Houston’s polluted waters and dead birds is just as accurate as one of Houston’s skyscrapers and busy shopping malls, but they tell very different stories to very different people…Frames are the words and images and interactions that reinforce a bias someone is already feeling (p. 41).

This begs the question, what am I feeling? How about those around me? Should we think of Dubai as the city that knows how to host one heck of a party—the $20 million grand opening of the Atlantis Resort last month was absolutely spectacular (think Beijing Olympic-style fireworks, movie stars galore, lavish dinners, loads of wine… in other words, totally FUN!). Or, is Dubai the place that of recent likes to call people “redundant?” As this Newsweek cover story points out, the same company that funded the Atlantis’s multimillion-dollar celebration, a couple weeks later announced that it was laying off 500 people. That company is not alone. Every other day I hear about another real estate or banking company letting people go.

I suppose things are never black and white, which makes understanding and narrating Dubai’s current economic story ever more of a challenge. Should I frame my version of this tale through the lenses of Gucci glasses, or should I stick to a more generic approach? Maybe I should try bifocals?

As I grapple to understand the character my version of Dubai will play in the current world economic downturn, I will leave you with a brief retelling of a recent night I had on the town…

On November 26th, 2008 I spent the evening playing Norah Jones hits, Autumn Leaves and various tango numbers under the stars. Surrounded by my fellow orchestra members, Dubai A-listers, magazine photographers and a fantastic jazz singer from France, we all gathered at the outdoor amphitheater of the One and Only Royal Mirage Hotel to celebrate the 150th anniversary of Boucheron—the luxury jewelry company, not the cheese. The evening could have been a scene out of the Middle East’s version of the Great Gatsby. While the orchestra played, Russian models strutted up and down the venue aisles wearing more diamonds around their necks than what is currently on display at Tiffany’s, New York. The French singer we accompanied must have hit a hundred seductive poses for the local paparazzi and the tango group that followed made sure to do nothing less than impress. When it came time for the president of Boucheron to give a speech, the amphitheater quieted and the cigar smoke cleared. He spoke briefly about passion and giving jewelry to those we love and then closed by suggesting that we use the event as an opportunity to diversify our investment portfolios by adding a few diamonds to the mix. At that moment, the audience paused with seeming unease—perhaps alluding to the state of the real estate markets and suggesting diamond retail therapy as the perfect solution to the situation was a bit uncouth?! Aware of the tension, or just keeping to schedule, the orchestra conductor quickly raised his baton to move the evening along—more song, more drinks and more dance.

The next morning I woke up to learn that while at Boucheron’s birthday party, terrorists had launched a vicious attack on some of Mumbai’s most celebrated venues—killing over 100 innocent bystanders. Upon arrival at the office my coworkers looked drained. Many are from Mumbai, and had spent the night alternating between watching the news in disbelief and calling loved ones to make sure they were safe. Saddened by the whole situation and feeling rather guilty for partying ignorantly the night before, I listened to my coworkers frame the evening’s events and tried to make sense of something that just seemed so senseless.

After talking for about an hour, one Indian coworker looked up and said, “Hey, in America, isn’t it Thanksgiving?” I responded—“Yes”—impressed that she thought to remember. We then launched into a discussion about how Thanksgiving is celebrated in the States and all agreed that Thanksgiving is one of the best holidays because its celebration transends the boundaries of race, religion and creed. Although we were sad, a discussion of what it means to be thankful lifted our spirits and helped us move forward with our day.

I don’t yet know what to make of the current world economic and geopolitical situation. The frame through which I see the events around me in Dubai and beyond is, to be honest, quite foggy. I suppose the best thing to do moving forward is to work hard, remain optimistic (yet grounded), spend and save thoughtfully and continue feeling the hope I wrote about in my last entry.

If I don’t speak to you before then, have a happy, healthy and hopefully prosperous new year!

Sincerely,
A

PS Eid Mubarak!

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